I've done a little research on various well knows bridal websites (not going to mention any names) and have come away disappointed by what I have read and the advice they are giving out! I have found such things as 'general rule of thumb, 1 bridesmaid to 50 guests' 'a large bridal party signifies a traditional formal wedding''choose based on who lives closest for help with arrangements'.. blah blah blah.
I think the only rule you should set yourself is that the bride and groom are the only 2 people who should be making the decision regarding who is going to be in the bridal party! Don't let family members get involved in the decision making, and brides let the groom decide on his side of the party (bridezilla).
Here is some advice which may help with the decision making:
- select people based on long term relationships
- don't not pick someone because it might offend someone else. If they are a true friend they will understand your reasoning and get over it!
- don't pick someone just because you were in their bridal party
- what are you expecting from your bridal party? Do you want help with the planning and management of the wedding or do you just want your favourite people next to you on the big day?
- it's no longer necessary for anyone to hold the title 'maid of honour' and 'best man'
- bridesmaids don't just have to be females; groomsman don't have to be just males!
- once you decide on your bridal party, get the word out; that way people won't be offended or thing you are keeping it from them
- it's all about fun, laughter and lifelong memories! If someone doesn't fit into those 3 categories, you may regret it later!